What Alzheimer’s Can Never Take Away

Sweet, familiar faces greet me at the glass screen door. Through tender hugs and peering over beloved shoulders, I begin my search for her. It’s hard to believe this day is here. I’m amazed. Her kids weren’t sure she’d live to see this day. It’s been a rough road lately, I hear. But she’s entered into the hour of her 80th birthday.

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The last time I was here, she conversed with me. She won’t be able to today.

I see her. I take in her sweet details from a distance.

She’s so loved. Disease can take so much from a person. People can give up on you, and one can choose to give up on themselves and others, but from where I stand, Alzheimer’s can’t take away your loves. She is curled up on her side, on the couch, cuddled into her pillow and blanket. So much princess pink. Her loyal Maltese blends in to the white cotton pillowcase, taking up more pillow space than my aunt’s precious face is. The beloved caregiver beckons the help of my cousin, the daughter, and they ease her to standing at the walker. The caregiver cups my aunt’s face in her hands and kisses her forehead.

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She’s so strong, even in her weakness. Because she’s all heart–all heart that fought for grandkids, that survived cancer, that survived the loss of two beloved children, that survived the loss of a husband, that fought and survived so much more than I’ll ever be privy to. Her fragile fingers grip the walker rails. Because Alzheimer’s can’t take away a fighting spirit. Time after time, her kids wonder if she’s being escorted away into the arms of God, but to everyone’s surprise, He wonderfully escorts her wandering mind and body inch by inch to the table through the hands and feet of Christ. She takes a seat at the queen’s chair, the candles are lit, and everyone gathers around her with love, in love.

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She’s so tiny. Always has been. But a recent chest cold pummeled on top of Alzheimer’s leaves her frailer than ever. Her beautiful skin clings to her precious cheekbones. Yet a glow emits from her eyes, as her two remaining daughters sprinkle her face with kisses. She looks, in part, like a ten-year-old with her sweet braids. The room fills with the fragrance of a struck match and a rising melody, happy birthday over her. And the words we know so well since childhood seep from her lips … happy birthday to you. “She’s singing,” I say. “She’s always singing,” says her caregiver, smiling. She is. She sings hymns with her sisters–my mom, my other aunt. One voice begins and hers will blend, like always, because Alzheimer’s can’t take away your treasure. A tiny package containing years of stored-up infinite treasure. Childhood treasure. Leaning-on-the-everlasting-arms kind of treasure.

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She’s so determined. She sits there, wobbly. But she will see this through. Her daughter opens the presents before her, for her. Chocolate and more chocolate. Giggles disperse. I think back over my conversation with my cousin, when I’d inquired over what I could possibly get my aunt for her birthday. If time is short and space is limited, what can I give her? “Chocolate,” said her daughter, my cousin. “She can still eat chocolate?” I asked, surprised. After the week she’d had, being so sick … “She sure can.” Would you look at that? My cousin places a slice of cake before her, crackers and Coke. All her favorites. She parts her lips for one tiny bite after bite, one tiny sip after sip, because Alzheimer’s can’t take away your favorites. 

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She’s so … Heading home, I ponder my aunt in admiration. I can’t quite put my finger on the situation. My oldest says, “Mom, did you hear what Aunt Novie said when we sang ‘Happy Birthday’ … when we sang ‘and many more’?” My daughter giggles. I glance at her through the rearview mirror. “No. What?” I say. My daughter gasps for air, trying to compose herself. “She asked, ‘There’s going to be more?'” I laugh. That’s exactly right. Because Alzheimer’s can’t take away your humor.

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And that’s when I put my finger on it, really put my finger on it–when it seems one doesn’t have a lot to go on, one goes on what they’ve got. Illness can take away much, but some things found in this life can never be removed without authority–love, treasure, a fighting spirit, determination, humor, Coca-Cola, chocolate, and best of all, Jesus. 

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Do you know anyone suffering from a disease like Alzheimer’s? What can you add to the list that can never be taken away? 

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©Shelli Littleton

17 thoughts on “What Alzheimer’s Can Never Take Away

  1. I got lost in your story. So beautiful…as if I was there. Thank you for sharing the words and the pictures. So often, our culture doesn’t know what to do for or say to the aged . . . but love speaks so loudly.

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  2. Oh, dear Shelli, this is beautiful. ❤ Your post touched me and blessed me in an area of my heart that's still wrestling with this topic. I've lost a relative to Alzheimer disease, but it didn't take away the family's love for her. Sadly, it appears to be making an appearance in another family member's mind and body. One day I will write about it. One day Jesus will restore what was lost and wipe away our tears. Hugs.
    Blessings ~ Wendy Mac

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    1. Thank you, Wendy. It’s a scary thing. And I guess the older we get, when we forget little things here and there, it’s hard not to get paranoid. But the Lord will restore, just like you said, just like He said. Hugs back to you. ❤

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      1. There’s a test one can take to check on how normal (or not normal) one’s forgetfulness is. ❤ I can see myself asking the doctor for it in a few years (if I don't forget to ask). Gotta keep a sense of humor even when all the rest of our senses fly south. 🙂

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  3. Shelli, I loved this. I’ve been wanting to stop by for a few days, but life . . .

    Such a beautiful post. My grandmother died from Alzheimers many years ago. I was about 12 when she was diagnosed. I have beautiful, fun memories of her. Of things that happened when I was with her. I so look forward to seeing her in heaven one day. I thought about her as I read your words. Such love there.

    Alzheimers may take away the ability to do things, but it can’t take away the determination. Yes, there’s a story there . . . If you want to hear it, message me. 😉

    I loved this, my friend.

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    1. Oh, and one other thought. My grandfather was my grandma’s main caregiver. Her illness, and his caring for her, added a softness to a harsh man. It sanded away some of his hardness and left in its place a beautiful brokenness.

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      1. Jeanne … it’s amazing what one person’s life, in living or dying, can do for another … how God can use us, even when we don’t realize or understand we’re being used in a good way. That’s so sweet. A beautiful brokenness.


    2. I’ll be messaging you real soon. I do want to hear. My grandmother wasn’t diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, but she had deterioration of her brain … and goodness, I’ve got some sweet stories, too. I loved her so much. ❤


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